Sometimes the words of a toddler (or any aged kid) can drive deep down to the core of a parent. I recently wrote about the hilariously funny one-liners my 4 (and a ½) year old was dropping on a daily basis; In The Words of A 4 Year Old. While I am still getting plenty of knee slapping, rolling on the floor laughing moments, we have most recently entered the stage of not-so-nice one-liners.
We’ve all said them. But it’s the moment you hear them said to you as a parent that you realize how painfully heart stabbing and sometimes tear jerking they can really be. It’s also in these moments that you realize you’ve retained WAY more of what your own parents used to say to you, as you mutter the same replies back to your own child(ren).
“You’re not my friend anymore!” ~ Oh honey, I don’t have to be your friend. I just have to be your mother.
“You don’t love me because you’re mean and yell at me.” ~ Darling, I’m mean and yell at you because I care and because I love you.
“You don’t like me anymore!” ~ You’re right, at the current moment I don’t like you. But no matter what, I will always love you.
It’s taken a couple of blows to the chest, sometimes at the worst possible moments, for me to get a grasp on this new stage. It’s made me regret all the times I said these things to my parents, especially my mom since she took the brunt of it while I was growing up. I know she brushed them all off, just as I’m doing now, but I also know deep down, at one point or another, the things I said hurt. Sorry Mom & Dad!!!! And thank you; for being a parent over a friend, for loving me enough to yell and punish and for always, always being there for me 110%!!!!
Until the next new stage rolls around, I’ll continue to let the good out-weigh the bad and roll with the punches known as life with a 4 year old.