Written by Guest Blogger:
We’ve all said it. Those six little words, “I’d love to be (insert age here) again.” As a mother of a 3 year-old I tend to say “I’d love to be 3 again,” to myself more often than I probably should. Wouldn’t it be great to have someone take care of all the cleaning, the laundry, the grocery shopping, the ‘this’ and the ‘that’? Wouldn’t it be amazing to come home for the day and run around the house flittering from this activity to, oh look another one over there!? Wouldn’t it be the best thing in the whole wide world to eat an ice cream sundae guilt free? Wouldn’t it be silly to put together an outfit of your favorite things without the care of whether or not people will judge you for it? This is the life of my beautiful 3 year-old and I’d LOVE to live a day in her shoes. Free spirited and full of never-ending energy and excitement.
Yesterday morning she gave me a glimpse of her life while leaving for school. It was a crazy morning in our house trying to get out the door, as most mornings are. I was a little overwhelmed and stressed about things, especially trying to get to work on time after being out for 2 days with a sick kiddo. I kept my cool as best I could and herded her to the car to leave. Once I finally got in the car I had an ‘I need to just scream moment’ and let it out. GGGAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! I instantly felt the elephant on my chest disappear. What came next is the reason I’m writing this post…
Daughter: “Mommy, why did you do that?”
Me: “Because I was feeling frustrated and stressed out.”
Daughter: “Mommy, why are you frustrated?”
Me: “Because this morning was a little crazy and overwhelming.”
Daughter: “Mommy, when you’re frustrated you just need to keep a calm body and you will feel better.”
That line right there. It was like a dagger to my heart all while melting it at the same time. For months I have been working with her on dealing with her frustration and anger. Simple tasks that she would have trouble with would lead to toys flying across our house, feet stomping and tears streaming. I’ve spent countless minutes explaining to her that when she starts to feel angry or frustrated she should take a step back, take a slow deep breath and think about what is happening and what could be done differently. I’ll admit, it’s a big statement for a little mind to comprehend. But through repeatedly working with her on it we have made huge progress. Apparently so much so that now she is teaching me. I instantly felt like a horrible mother for not doing as I say and I regretted every word I snapped at her with while trying to get out of the house. Although she played a part in my frustration in trying to get out the door, it all started with me over sleeping and running behind.
In thinking about all of this my brain wandered over to all of the things we teach and allow our little ones to do that make being a kid easier and more fun. All of the things they do that make us want to say “I’d love to be (insert age here) again”.
DRESS A LITTLE CRAZY AND BE CONFIDENT DOING IT ~ I’ve written about this before but it never gets old for me. My daughter’s sense of style is impeccable. The outfits she puts together are on point every single day. At least in her mind they are and that’s all that matters. She struts her stuff around in those outfits with the confidence I wish I had. Take a lesson from her, wear whatever the heck you want to wear and forget about what people say! And most importantly, feel good about doing it!!!
COME HOME FROM YOUR DAY AND DROP THE FLOOR MAT ~ As someone with SEVERE OCD, this one is particularly hard for me to do. But forget the cleaning, the cooking, the laundry, the ‘this’ and the ‘that’. Order delivery take-out, pour that glass of wine and do anything and everything you want. Roll around on the floor, build a fort and read a book in it, play in the sand box, ride your bike in circles up and down your driveway. Whatever you want! JUST HAVE FUN!!!
PUT ON SOME CRAZY MUSIC AND BUST A MOVE ~ Who cares if you have two left feet? Who cares if you want to jump up and down like a crazy person? Who cares??!?!?!?!! Just do it. Move your body around any way your little heart desires. Channel that inner kid in you and bust a move like you just don’t care!!!
EAT A BOWL OF CRAZY FOOD ~ You want pretzels, carrots, pears and hot fudge syrup mixed together??? Do it up!!! My daughter is a ketchup lover. She will literally put ketchup on anything. Waffles and ketchup? Yup. Green beans and ketchup? Sure! Bananas and ketchup? Most definitely!!! Whatever your crazy craving is, chow down!!!
You only live once. The life you have is short and precious. The time in the day flies by, the days barely exist at times and the weeks, months and years feel like yesterday but yet are a distant memory. Take a second to embrace it all. Forget about the trivial things in life and enjoy the little moments. Be (insert age here) again. You won’t regret it!