I wouldn’t have it any other way.
You’ve heard that saying before, right? It’s a mom’s go-to phrase for letting the world know that she loves being a mom and everything about it is awesome.
No seriously, you must have a friend or acquaintance who has rambled on about her crazy life and followed up some terrifying nightmare of a parenting story with a less than convincing “but I wouldn’t have it any other way.” Chances are if you’re a mom, you’ve probably even done this yourself.
But, do you really believe it?
Let me give it to you straight up. Everything about being a mom is not awesome.
In fact, there are a ton of things about parenting that really, really suck and if I actually had a choice, I WOULD have it another way. There. I said it. Now let me give you some examples:
I would probably change those days when my kids were infants and I was on call for 24 hour on demand feedings with occasional breaks to wipe away spit-up and poo. I would rather that my son have not peed on me while I was trying to change his diaper. Cute baby or not, I would rather not have to deal with rogue baby urine. I’d rather have had time to shower daily instead of all those days when I didn’t have a chance to shower or even comb my hair because I was non-stop all day long with a sick child or just a healthy, needy child. I’m not talking about a quick 5 minute shower interrupted several times by somebody looking for something or wondering what is for breakfast. I would like to have a solid 20 minutes to shower at my leisure every day if I had a choice.
Since I’m on a roll, I would rather be able to go to the bathroom in peace without my
monsters children clawing at the door. I would like to have more than 30 seconds pass between my kids asking me for a drink, and then a tissue, a snack, or their blankie. Whatever it is they need, I wish they could space out their requests. I’d rather my daughters not be sassy ever. I’d rather not lose my temper. I’d rather never feel tired. I’d rather that potty-training be automatic. I would like bedtime to be a breeze every night. I wish my laundry never piled up. I wish I only had to ask my kids to do something once and they’d do it.
The bottom line is we shouldn’t be ashamed to admit it. It’s OK if you haven’t loved every single moment of being a mom. There is a challenge for every triumph and hardly anything about it is easy. I can’t even bring myself to think about the parenting struggles that the teenage years will bring. Let’s face it. It’s worth it but it’s not a cakewalk.
If I could, I would make parenting easier. I would NEVER have to bring all 3 kids to the grocery store. I would never have to eat a cold dinner. Dunkin Donuts would always get my order right. I would never be late! There would be no spills, no nap time protests, no tantrums or a need for time-outs. I would still have my 28 year old pre-nursing pre-marathon breasts. Heck, if I had my way, my kids would all be Red Sox fans and the Red Sox would always win. The Yankees would always lose. My husband wouldn’t be allergic to pets and we’d have a dog and a cat. They’d be soft and cuddly but they wouldn’t shed. Everyone in my family would be happy and healthy. I would have more time to run and I would want to run all the time. Cellulite wouldn’t exist and neither would wrinkles. There would be more choices for President of our country and of course, there would be WORLD PEACE. Who wouldn’t want world peace?!
Despite my ranting and raving, I do love being a mom. I adore my kids more than anything. And while everything is not awesome, mostly everything is.
I’m just saying. The next time you find yourself about to utter those words we’ve all said, think about it and fess up. Being honest will feel good. You love being a mom but if you had a choice, wouldn’t you have it some other (easier) way?
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