The other day, as I was standing on the sideline of a second-grade sporting event, I overheard two Moms and a Dad raging about the latest round of parent drama. Phrases like “Can you believe her?!” and “How could she?” kept being mentioned. I’m not down-playing whatever it was the mother in question did to offend her book group, because I’m sure it was disrespectful. However, observing the raging parents made me stop and think…how do they have the energy to be so angry about parent drama; is it really worth their time?
The following advice goes for parents and non-parents alike, for runners, walkers, bikers, and for annoyed adults the world over. We all have that co-worker, relative, neighbor, fellow parent, who drive us absolutely bat shit crazy–causing us to teeter on the edge of losing our last bit of sanity.
What if, instead of raging, plotting, complaining, and bitching, we take our remaining energy and turn elsewhere, use it for something better. I know, it’s easier said than done, so to help you out I came up with a list of eight alternatives. Next time you find yourself seconds away from screaming at your Brownie Troop’s Cookie Mom because she messed up your order, use this list as a resource. Take a deep breath and be the mature adult.
- Go for a run. If you are a runner, the exercise and endorphins will give you a high and help to assuage your anger. If you are not a runner, you will be sore, out of breath, dizzy and will forget all about what was pissing you off.
- Eat some chocolate. Seriously, grab some delicious dark chocolate with raspberries (my personal fave) and indulge. Don’t worry about your meal plan, your diet, or that pair of skinny jeans you hope to fit into before your friend’s next birthday. Enjoy and indulge.
- Read a child a book. Pick your favorite children’s book grab your favorite little snuggle bug and get lost in a silly story. Creating whacky character voices and watching their little face light up will make you forget all about the people in the world who make you mad.
- Empty the dishwasher. Hey, it has to get done sometime!
- Have sex. Mind-blowing, toe curling, forget the world, sex…because everything always feels better after.
- Volunteer. Because helping others and actively turning your negative energy into positive energy will make you feel better, and of course, being altruistic is so much better for your expression lines and wrinkles, than being angry.
- Go shopping. Retail therapy…wait, what was I even angry about?
- Drink wine with good friends. Surrounding yourself with those who love you and will always take care of you is one of the best feelings. Don’t waste your time on the people who aren’t worth your time. Grab your besties, your favorite wine and be ready to laugh.
After watching these parents rage and dramatize the wrong doings in their life, I was exhausted. I really wanted to give them some chocolate and wine. I know there are times in our lives where anger is the absolute and most appropriate response to a situation. There are times where raging and anger are the correct choice. Try to minimize those situations, turn the times of annoyance and disappointment into something more positive. Fill your life with smiles, good books, good sex, and a some sexy new shoes…you deserve it!
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