Recently my husband has been traveling for work, and for the last three months I have had sole duty of taking care of our three young children. He was leaving at four in the morning, and not returning to us until right before dinner time, many nights, bed time. I understood that this was part of the package when I married a land developer. However, I didn’t know it would be for such long stretches of time.
With my husband away, I began to let things that I held value in slip away. I lost time for running, reading, keeping up on my house duties, holiday shopping, attending social gatherings- I let everything go, even my self-control in the kitchen.
I began turning to food when I felt stressed out about my work load, my house and my personal daily duties. I started drinking soda again to keep myself thinking it would keep me up longer to achieve my goals. I started getting out of bed, going to the snack cabinet to eat at all hours of the night. I lost control.
Losing control took a toll on me. I started to feel like I need to sleep all the time, I felt like I needed a cocktail at nine in the morning, I felt no desire to wear jeans, I felt completely overwhelmed and buried! I started to be a walking reflection of my stress. My clothes stopped fitting, my hair looked like shit, I kept canceling appointments because the thought of organizing a game plan overwhelmed me.
Then one day in the midst of all my stress, I realized that I married the best partner ever! He was always there to aid me in the night time routine, to stay behind while I attended social gatherings with the ladies, to distract the kids while I cleaned the house, to run the errands that I couldn’t fit in on my work day, to start dinner if I was working late, to remind me to call for dentist appointments, EVERYTHING! I need my man 100%!
Even though at times I want to tell him otherwise, it’s a lie! I could never do this without him by my side. We are a team to the end, the ying to my yang. Funny, it just took him being away from us for so long for me to see how wonderful I really have it!
He is done traveling for now, and I couldn’t be happier! I already made four dinner dates, and invited people to come over. I’m so eager to get out and see everyone! I also started eating correctly again and exercising on the regular, and I have even made us a date night!
Positive lessons are not always learned in positive ways…