It’s official. My 3 year old has declared he is MOVING OUT! “I’m MOVING out of this house!” he says. “I’m moving out of this house and going to California and gonna ride horses! Then, I’m moving to Claire’s house!”
For those of you who don’t know my three year old, Wesley is bright, hilarious, adorable, and going on 25! He thinks he is the house mayor! I just laugh at him most the time, but lately he has become more assertive in his little self. Quite frankly, I feel like say’n, “There’s the door kid, don’t let it hit you in the ass!” If he was older, that is what he would be getting!
So, today I bring you this very delicate, personal topic – discipline.
The Oxford English dictionary defines discipline as the following:
Discipline: NOUN; The practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behavior, using punishment to correct disobedience.
Wes doesn’t take anything I say seriously. He talks back when I redirect him, he says things like,”I pay you five dollars,” or “NO mushroom head!”, or “I want Papa, you’re not the boss, Papa is” (That one really pisses me off, ’cause let’s get one thing straight – MOM is the BOSS!) “I’m gonna crack this roof of this house,” is another favorite.
I have reached a breaking point with him. It’s time to make serious changes in his little assertive attitude before these fresh habits move into social settings, and he gets accustomed to thinking he can be disrespectful.
Even as an educator, I am struggling with how to discipline my young, fast growing children. I know how to start positive reward programs. I know how to talk about our feelings. I know how to redirect him. I know how to chalk it up to the age. What I don’t know is how do I stop myself from losing my cool on him when he tells me no and calls me a mushroom head? How do I “train” him if he knows there is really very little I can actually do? He knows my love is unconditional; he knows I won’t be physical with him; and he knows we will inevitably move past our moments of assertiveness as quickly as possible. He also knows that I’m too weak to make him go to bed him hungry… so where does that leave me?
I grew up with the fear of the punishment rendered if I didn’t behave. I grew up knowing that when I was told to go to my room, not only did I go…I RAN!
I just wonder what all this soft talk is doing to our growing generations?
I just wonder what you do to get your points across?
I just wonder if Claire’s family will let Wes move in?
I just wonder where the hell he got California from?
I just wonder what happen to eating mushrooms instead of being one?
I just wonder when that, “How to Parent 100% All the Time,” book will ever be handed out after you give birth?