Perspective is one of those things that in moderation can make us laugh and in excess can make us cry. If you have a husband/wife/partner who occasionally says the wrong thing OR if you have a day that “goes south”, read fellow blogger Alison’s post from this week. It will make you laugh!
On a more serious note, there are times when we think we can’t catch a break. This is when perspective can make us cry. I’m talking about big life stressors — major illness, unemployment, the loss of a loved one. Couple those enormous blows with the more mundane life annoyances — car in the shop, broken furnace (water heater in my case lately), sick child home from school — and it may seem more than we can bear. Perspective at this point can seem like an enemy. At these times in my own life, I felt I really, really, didn’t want to understand how difficult life can be. I longed to get back to a normal level of petty life issues to deal with.
Patience, persistence, calm, resilience. How do we learn these things? Chumbawamba’s song Tubthumping (I get knocked down) runs through my head.
Well kids, I’ve been knocked down and lived through a whole bunch of life-altering events. And, I’m thankful, believe it or not, for experiencing an exponentially huge amount more of the “run of the mill” variety. I’m not sure how it happened, but I’m looking more backward and less forward in my life — and because of all my experiences I’m here to testify that perspective really does help.
While your blood pressure rises and your normal patience deserts you as your receive the really not so “bad” news about [insert your latest stressor here], take a deep breath. Think about how fortunate you are that your car battery died rather than someone you love. Think about the fact you will likely not remember this current annoyance tomorrow. Think about the really inconvenient “day off” from work because your child can’t go to day care as a gift of time spent letting them know they are the most important thing in your life.
Keeping things in perspective helps us focus on what is truly important in our lives.
And when you simply just can’t take it any more, laugh or sigh, call a friend and say, “F##K PERSPECTIVE!
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