Coming off of last week’s pregnancy announcement, I am full swing in baby mode, and with that brings a lot of changes. Change not just for me and my husband, but also change for my son. Admittedly, I have always struggled with change. However, for the first time, I am feeling ready and excited about all of our upcoming changes. It is my son who I worry about. I fear he has inherited my sensitive nature and my reluctant attitude towards change.
Aside from the obvious change that a new baby can bring to a home, and the overall change in household dynamic, there are many other changes my son is about to face at the same time. New baby means we have officially outgrown our two bedroom condo, and we are planning on moving in May. We have decided to move to an area about 30 minutes away from our current home. For me, this feels like a fresh start and a change I have been wanting to make for quite some time….goodbye city, hello suburbs! For my son, it means everything he has grown to know will change. I am not just talking the physical change in homes, but also new driving routes, new playgrounds, new grocery stores, new people, new babysitters, all things will feel new and unfamiliar to him.
A move to a new area means a move to a new school. Luckily, I found a school quickly and easily that we loved. We have already begun the enrollment process, and I think my son will love it (eventually). However, this will be his third school in less than two years, and while the transition to our current school went quite smoothly, I know that may not be the case this time around. Landon loves his current school, I mean really loves it. We have started talking about his new school, and we will take him to visit the school a few times before he starts. But, he will be starting school in the summer (during summer camp) so he will have different teachers in the summer than he will have for the 2015/16 school year, and this is probably the change that makes me the most nervous.
There are also some developmental changes that need to occur in the next few months before baby number 2 makes its appearance. We have already started the potty training process, and after some serious resistance from our son, I feel hopeful that he is finally getting the hang of things. We still have a ways to go, but moving from diapers to the potty is one big step for our little man. We also would like to move him from his crib, or shall I say his beloved crib, and into a “big boy bed” before the baby is born. Logistically, we would rather use his crib for the new baby than buy a new one, and he is definitely getting a bit too big for it. However, he is not interested in moving to a bed. I think he would stay in his crib forever if we let him. I have heard from countless people that the transition from crib to bed can be really difficult and it requires quite a bit of patience and training.
I guess after writing all of this, it is clear that I still feel some apprehension about change no matter how excited I may be. I know children are resilient and adaptable, but I can’t help but worry about how my son will handle all of this. We are trying to do everything in phases and not all at the same time to help in the process, but I am not sure what else to do to ease the transitions. How do your children handle change, any advice for getting through all of these new steps? What does change mean for you?