My four-year old. Excuse me, my “four-and-a-halves” year old is a smarty, quirky, sassy little person. She has her own, finely developed sense of fashion, knows what she does and doesn’t like and schemes ways to get it. She makes me laugh, makes my cry, and sometimes makes me crazy. For all the awesome personality traits she embodies, there is one thing about her that pushes me to the edge…she’s a HOARDER!
I mean it, she really is! She hoards items, refuses to throw things away and piles up junk around her like those people you see on the A&E documentary series. Just this morning I walked into her room and found one pile of books on the floor, a bag of winter gloves near her bed and old flashcards belonging to her sister, sticking out of her drawer. The site of her messy, unkept room gave me pause…how is it that such an organized, clean, type A mother like myself can have a daughter who is so messy and disorganized?! I have my suspicions where this behavior comes from, but hey, it’s not about pointing fingers is it!?
I have tried, time and time again, to encourage my daughter to stay organized, throw things away, and maintain a clean living environment. I have failed! For every scrap of paper I throw away, she stuffs one of her dress-up purses full of used chap sticks, broken head bands and holiday cards from last year!
In particular, there are two areas where I am not only failing, I’m falling so far behind I honestly believe I have lost the battle! The first involves her clothes. I try very hard to pick her out cute, comfy, matching outfits. She scoffs at my choices and prefers to wear gym shorts with leggings underneath, anything with sequins, whether it fits or not, and sweatshirts with a too small tee-shirt pulled over the top. This girl has closets and dressers filled with clothes, but will only wear a handful of crazy miss-matched items. I have been known to secretly dispose of some of the craziest pieces of clothing, especially the ones that haven’t fit in over a year, but this usually backfires and results in an epic battle in which the winner wears a sequins Hello Kitty outfit for four straight days.
The other place I’m quickly losing ground is her bed. Here is a rundown of what has turned up in her bed over the past week:
-a handful of kitchen items (wooden spoon, pot holder, cloth napkins,)
-diapers (clean ones, thankfully!)
-ripped up pieces of paper,
-an old, broken cell phone,
-a flashlight my husband has been looking for, for months!
-an old lunchbox,
-two stuffed animals I swear I sold at a lawn sale.
Each night she arranges these treasures in her bed. The other night, this elaborate set-up delayed bedtime by a solid fifteen minutes!
If you look closely at the picture you can spot her two pillows, three pillow pets, one shoe, Princess Sofia, an American Girl doll (with my daughter’s pajama pants on), Franky the pig, and of course, a mermaid in a slipper.
Oh, what to do with the girl?! While I want to embrace her uniqueness and encourage creativity, there is only so much this neat-freak Mom can take. Whenever I find a shoe box filled with random lego pieces or a purse stuffed with broken puzzle pieces, I hope that it is just a stage.
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