As I begin to build a new mommy support network for myself I need to take a moment and thank the incredible network I left back in Connecticut. While I am the chief momma guru in our family, I acknowledge that it does take a village to support, lend advice, commiserate, and lend a hand to ensure success in this whole raising children process. This list is by no means comprehensive but I would feel remiss without offering a few shout-outs to those that have helped me through the last two years.
Liam and Lizzy, thank goodness your mother can start a story off with, “not my finest parenting moment but…” Her honesty makes me feel better about my less proud moments. Your mom has helped me laugh at my own less than stellar moments and feel less alone in my little failures.
Sydney, Matthew, Michael, and James, I am often in awe of your mother’s strength, determination, and dedication. Thank you for being a loud, chaotic, family that blends perfectly with my boys. Your mom is the first to volunteer to help other moms, amazing given that there are four of you under the age of ten. Your mom has helped me learn to ask for help and to accept help which in turn has made me quicker to offer more help. She has shown me a beautiful circle of support making me a better mommy and a better friend. I will especially miss all our carpooling to soccer and tee-ball along with all after-school play times.
Natalie and Graham, your mom may be little but she is fierce. Your mother shows how to advocate for your child, in the most likeable way. I don’t know that I could ever embody her personality but I am inspired by her love and advocacy. She also reminds me that we can and should give back through volunteer work. I greatly appreciate the reminder that I have more to give.
Landon, your mom has never forgotten how to have fun while still being an adult. She reminds me that popsicles are amazing cure-alls and should be stocked in the freezer at all times. Occasionally I forget in my healthy eating rampages that popsicles are a necessity.
Arya, Shriya, and Maya, your mom reminds me of my life before kids. She reminds me that it is okay to mourn a little of the business woman I was and to embrace the runit mom I am now. Your mom is a great example to you girls and to me of a strong smart successful woman. These reminders of who I am help me be a better mom.
Josh and Benjamin, your mom and dad always appear so calm and collected. It may be an act but their tranquil persona is an excellent reminder to me to take deep breaths and soldier onward. I often need that reminder that just breathing deeply and speaking softly can do so much. I really appreciate your parents for setting that example.
Evan, Sierra, and Marshall, there aren’t words to express your mother battling breast cancer with three young kids under the age of 7. She and I learned to indoor rock-climb together so that we could belay you kids on the walls while she completed her chemo treatments. I can’t wait to run her first half-marathon with her. Perseverance and positivity and a drive to try new things are truths your mother embodies and she reminds me to incorporate these traits into myself as a mom and a woman.
When Hillary Clinton first published her book, It Takes a Village: And Other Lessons Children Teach Us, I was not a parent and I could not appreciate the true meaning behind the proverb title of Clinton’s book. Now I understand better. I may not want everyone disciplining or teaching my children life’s lessons, but I certainly need the support, guidance, help, and presence of my mommy village. My children are better for this network and I am a better mom because of these fellow parents in my life.
I invite others to shout out to their mommy support villages too! I know I’m not the only one who can’t do it alone.