There are some things about my body I can change with hard work and determination. There are some things about my body I cannot change. I’m okay with this set of facts. I cannot change the shape of my foot. Please don’t tell me if there is some fancy elective surgery that would allow me to do this – I’m sticking with the fact that I cannot change the shape of my adult feet. Granted, I don’t think there is anything freakish about my feet, and no one ever comments on my feet, well, other than my podiatrists. Podiatrists seem very annoyed by my narrow heels. I never knew I had narrow heels until my first podiatrist visit, but since that first time every podiatrist I have ever seen has commented on my foot shape. Some seem openly hostile about the disproportion, and some, like my most recent doc, just comment at length on how finding the right shoes must be incredibly difficult. Uhm, hello?, woman with a size 9.5/10 foot who wants cute shoes…finding the “right” shoes is always a process. I’m not sure the narrow heels come into play as much as the large feet. I’ve even bought shoes too small because they were the “right” shoes for the outfit I was wearing that evening (painful but true).
I digress. My point in commenting on my foot shape is that it is mostly pointless to comment at all because it can NOT be changed, altered, transformed, improved, etc. My feet aren’t the only parts of my body that are outside of the norm that I cannot change.
I have small ears. People even comment on them being small (and usually say they are cute). Yes, I know your ears continue to grow as you age…just imagine how small they use to be before I reached this ripe old age? Even though there is surgery to adjust my ears, I’m going to keep them just the way they are. I’m okay with my ears.
My pinky fingers on both hands are crooked. I’ve had ER doctors insist on x-raying them, extremely sure that I must have broken them. I have never broken either pinky finger and they do match each other. I have no idea why they are a little freakish. I admit they aren’t my favorite feature, but I’ve grown to accept them. I also have a birthmark on my left palm, small, but it perpetually looks like a brown smudge of dirt on my hand, again it isn’t ideal but hey I accept it.
I’m also unable to keep a sweat band / head band on my head. I’d love to know how people do it. Must be the shape of my head. Oh well.
All these things are just part of me. None of us is really “the norm.”
My list could go on. We all have things about our bodies that cannot be changed. The good news is we all have things about our bodies that we can influence and change. I can flatten my tummy with a lot of hard-work and dedication. Over time it is slowly coming closer to where I would like it to be. Similar to Jenn’s post, we need to accept things about our bodies, and we need to stop bringing focus to things that cannot be changed, like my foot shape. Deal with it Dr. Podiatrist, my feet have narrow heels. They propel me forward every day, they run with me, they chase my babies with me, and I love them freakish or not.
So what about you is freakish and you cannot, would not, should not change because it makes you uniquely you? I’d love to know!