We have just completed our fourth major move in seven years. I use “completed” in a loose sense of the word since we still have boxes to unpack, and I still need to organize a lot of spaces in the house. However, we are here in our new State of Florida, we are all together as a family again, and the Connecticut house is sold! which translates to a successfully completed move. There are families, corporate and military alike, who have moved far more than we have, we by no means boast a record. With each move we make I hear more and more comments asking “how do we do it?”, “what a trooper I must be,” and “what’s the hardest part?”
Ah, the hardest part… when first asked of me, I had no idea what the hardest part could be. I’ve paid attention this move and come to the conclusion that the hardest part of any move is the here and now. Now is the time we need to find our “new normal,” aka our new routine, the new when and where we do everything. Now I know where the grocery store is and sort of know where the specialty stores are, I’ve joined a gym, the boys are starting school soon, and I’ve found most of the youth leagues in the area. Now we have to fit all those everyday things back into a daily, weekly, and seasonal calendar. When is the most convenient day to drop off and pick up dry-cleaning? Which classes and which time slots do I want to do to at the gym? What hair salon to go to is a big stressor too – my whites are really starting to show. I have to drop-off and pick-up at school now and sports start earlier, so how does that all fit in with our current breakfast and dinner schedule? How does that affect my running schedule, not to mention how the weather (i.e. heat and humidity) affects my running times?
These are all the silly mundane parts of life’s routine that absolutely all get figured out in time. For me this is the hardest part of moving; the living in complete flux while we figure it out. The chaos of the packing, the move, and the unpacking is an adventure. The discovering where everything is located is like a scavenger hunt. The decorating and shopping for the new home are fun. Eventually we figure it all out and the mundane becomes as it should be, routine, until then we muddle through. But this, the search for our “new normal,” is my hardest part. (The 2nd hardest thing is definitely making new friends in the new area as an adult!)
If you’ve moved around the block, two towns over, two States over, or country hopped, I’d love to know what your hardest part of moving is? Please share your moving stories.